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The 3 Lies You’ve Got to Quit in 2024 (and the truth to tell yourself instead)

Here’s where I am today –

I’m in my robe and pj’s. I’m not entirely sure what day it is, and I’ve lost track of how many days it’s been since I last showered (TMI?). I have had three sick kiddos home with me all last week and the littlest one is still home with me recovering from whatever bug swept through our house.

All the while, I’m trying to keep the house together (somewhat), take care of myself (obviously lacking in that department), balance the budget (still have $20k in student loans to pay off), and manage my businesses.

Can you relate? Does any of that sound familiar to you? Maybe you’ve been there before, or maybe you find yourself there right now, wondering when things might get a little better/easier.

Whenever I’m feeling a bit down and out, or anxious about things, it’s the perfect time for the lies to easily creep into my mind. Here’s three that perhaps you’ve often said to yourself, too:

1. I’m not where I should be.

2. Everything must be perfect before I… (insert your result here).

3. It doesn’t really matter that much.

Ooph. Do you have some feelings about these lies? I do, too! Let’s break down each of these and combat them with the truth you can tell yourself, and what you can do instead!

LIE NUMBER ONE: “I’m not where I should be.”

Note – I’m on a mission to help women like you to stop “shoulding” all over yourself. Enough of that! Let’s change our language and our mindset around the word “should.” (That’s why “should do” tasks are second in the priority ranking of your to-do list inside my daily goal planner.)

Here’s the truth: You’re right where you’re supposed to be, right now.

You may be in a season of hard, or you may be in a season of great joy. Or it can even be both of these things at the same time. I have a good friend who likes to call this the “Land of And.” Either way – you’re not behind!

Gratitude helps to combat the belief of this lie that you’re not where you should be. AND I believe you can be grateful – but also not satisfied. It’s okay to want more. More for your life, more for your relationships.

I’m both incredibly grateful for my children AND I want them to all be well so they can go back to school! Are you living in the “Land of And”? Share with me in the comments. I’m here for you!

What can you do about it?

Write down five things you’re thankful for today.

LIE NUMBER TWO: “Everything must be perfect before I… (insert your desired result here).”

Note – this lie can also disguise itself to sound like: “I’m not doing enough.”

Here’s the truth: I’ll be the first to admit, this is a tough one. As a constantly recovering perfectionist, one of my favorite mottos is “Done is better than perfect.” And that’s the truth. If you wait until something is “perfect,” such as: writing a blog post, or creating your website, or designing an online course – guess what – you’ll NEVER get it out there, my friend!

“Perfect” is also subjective to your own opinion. My idea of perfection is going to be different than yours. So why are you holding back when you could be out there helping the people who NEED your giftings?

Repeat after me – done is better than perfect!

What can you do about it?

Take imperfect action – today. Whatever it is – just do the thing!

LIE NUMBER THREE: “It doesn’t really matter that much.”

Note – this lie can also disguise itself to sound like: “No one really cares.” or “Does anyone really notice?”

Ooh – this one’s a doozy because I can make this excuse all day, every day.

Here’s the truth: What you do and how you do it DOES matter. I love the way Dr. Benjamin Hardy puts it in his book 10X is Easier Than 2X, “How you do anything is how you do everything.”

But we’re not talking about doing things perfectly – remember? It’s about showing up. Be faithful in the little things. (Something I am always reminding myself of!) Just keep showing up! No more excuses, because remember – done is better than perfect, right?! (Can you tell I’m working on this one – big time?)

What can you do about it?

This is where making a plan is so helpful – even if it isn’t perfect. In fact – I challenge you to make a plan in spite of it’s imperfection! You can make a plan AND take imperfect action. You will learn once you’ve taken action. You’ll even discover if your plan isn’t the right plan, and you need to ultimately change your plans. (Did I say ‘plan’ too many times here? Haha!)

I want to encourage you that by making a plan, it means you’re being intentional and purposeful – even if that plan has to change over time. This is the beginning stage of building a long-term healthy habit.

You can do this for both your business and your life!

Know what else you can do? Submit your plans to the Lord. One of my favorite Bible verses is in Proverbs, where it says, “Commit your actions to the Lord, and your plans will succeed.” Proverbs 16:3 NLT

This commitment requires a higher level of intentionality. Because a little bit of planning goes a long way.

Does all of this planning sound a tad overwhelming? Don’t worry – I got you!

That’s why I created my FREE Time Hacks Guide that includes my top 5 smart hacks to help you take back your time AND take care of yourself & your family in the process.

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Each “hack” includes easy-to-incorporate steps. I can’t wait to hear how this resource will help you break free from the overwhelm, get rid of the mom-guilt, and experience more joy every day! Then tell me in the comments which “hack” was your favorite and why. Happy “hacking!”

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  1. Jen says:

    I love the third truth – what I do and how I do it MATTERS!